The answer may surprise you…
Trauma is real. The way some are teaching to respond to it is bullshit.
There’s a lot of stuff out there on the internet. A good principle is to always steer in waters that are at least somewhat backed by science. That way you don’t drown in the hokey pokey and the woo-woo.
“Trauma” is starting to veneer into the hokey pokey. It’s the new fad in self-help and spirituality. Everybody thinks they have “trauma”. And everyone does have trauma.
The big issue becomes: How do we deal with our trauma?
And there’s no magic answer.
The answer is a meat and potatoes answer. And it can be answered through cold-hard science.
Responsibility. That’s the answer.
And it’s not that hard to understand why. Think about it. You only feel “traumatized” in the areas where you’ve had a lack of response-ability. So take your power back.
Sure, there’s other tools.
Psychedelics, Ayahuasca, cold showers, Russian Banya, etc
Whatever, incorporate what you like. Just make sure it only decorates and adds to your meat and potatoes, and does not replace it.
The concept of trauma has it’s perks. It’s moving us forward in a new direction of psychology.
One particular change is that we’re now looking at mental health as being a result of brain health, gut health, nervous system health, etc. Not just brain health.
We’re progressing towards a more holistic perspective.
That doesn’t tell us a whole lot about a cure though.
What science tells us is that there are two types of talk therapy which produce the best results
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
And if you were to combine these two therapies, it basically says that you have to accept where you are now, make sense of your past so that you can move forward, and focus on the actions, and mindsets that are going to produce better future outcomes.
So in other words, take responsibility for your life. For your career and finances, relationships, and health.
The more responsibility you take, the faster you move the needle.
Let’s make sure that the excitement doesn’t make us fall into shiny-object syndrome, and forget the time-tested principles and virtue-ethics that are the actual driver of results.